This helped me a lot.
"We’ve had sex before" is the one I heard most from my ex, however most of these can be applied to my previous relationship. I am so glad that this is here.
collections that are raw as fuck ➝ ulyanna sergeenko s/s 2013
I’ll take 1 of the top right, thank you.
where has this been all my life and where do i obtain it now
Iceland grieves after police kill a man for the first time in its history
December 5, 2013
It was an unprecedented headline in Iceland this week — a man shot to death by police.
"The nation was in shock. This does not happen in our country," said Thora Arnorsdottir, news editor at RUV, the Icelandic National Broadcasting Service.
She was referring to a 59-year old man who was shot by police on Monday. The man, who started shooting at police when they entered his building, had a history of mental illness.
It’s the first time someone has been killed by armed police in Iceland since it became an independent republic in 1944. Police don’t even carry weapons, usually. Violent crime in Iceland is almost non-existent.
"The nation does not want its police force to carry weapons because it’s dangerous, it’s threatening," Arnorsdottir says. "It’s a part of the culture. Guns are used to go hunting as a sport, but you never see a gun."
In fact, Iceland isn’t anti-gun. In terms of per-capita gun ownership, Iceland ranks 15th in the world. Still, this incident was so rare that neighbors of the man shot were comparing the shooting to a scene from an American film.
The Icelandic police department said officers involved will go through grief counseling. And the police department has already apologized to the family of the man who died — though not necessarily because they did anything wrong.
"I think it’s respectful," Arnorsdottir says, “because no one wants to take another person’s life. “
There are still a number of questions to be answered, including why police didn’t first try to negotiate with man before entering his building.
"A part of the great thing of living in this country is that you can enter parliament and the only thing they ask you to do is to turn off your cellphone, so you don’t disturb the parliamentarians while they’re talking. We do not have armed guards following our prime minister or president. That’s a part of the great thing of living in a peaceful society. We do not want to change that. "
Meanwhile in America….
This is really important to me. I just got out of an abusive relationship and I hope that no one ever has to feel like I did.
1. Your job. Yes, even if you’re working something that other people condescendingly term “not a real job,” such as retail or service. If you have a job of any kind in this economy, you’ve already won.
2. Whether or not you have debt. If you managed to get out of your education debt-free, that doesn’t mean that your life is a financial walk in the park that you constantly have to be apologizing for. If you are in debt, it doesn’t mean you got a “worthless” degree and now deserve to be shamed for struggling to find work after you were convinced by your school that you were making a good decision.
3. The kind of food you enjoy eating, or why you enjoy eating. (No matter how “uncultured” or “boring” or “gross” someone else might deem your favorite food.)
4. Your decision to have children, or not have them, or to not be sure if you even want them.
5. Your dislike for marriage as an institution — and even if this one day changes, you don’t have to justify having grown as a person and moved into a new point of view. No one should be telling you “I told you so” over something as enormous as your decision to commit for life to another person.
6. Your sexuality, or your desire to experiment with it. You are allowed to have “phases” or “try things out” or be “confused,” and can take as much time as you want figuring it out.
7. Your gender presentation.
8. Your income level, and what you can and cannot afford. If you are having trouble keeping up with friends because you are not able to spend as much as them, there is no reason to risk financial ruin to try and keep up appearances.
9. Your body. The only person whom you need to talk to about with it is your doctor; everyone else can else can go kick rocks.
10. Whether or not you want to go out on a weekend night, or ten weekend nights in a row. The amount of time you spend in a bar or at a club does not directly correlate with how cool or worthy a person you are.
11. Your relationship status. If you’re single and happy, that’s great. If you’re in a relationship and happy, that’s great. If you’re either of those and not happy, you are more than allowed to be, and it’s no one’s business how you should “fix” it unless you ask them for their advice.
12. How many friends you have. One is enough. A hundred is enough. And there is no need to falsely upgrade acquaintances to “friend” status in your mind simply to fill out the ranks. A true friend is rare, and we don’t need to make it a competition for who has the most.
13. How much you drink when you go out, or if you drink at all, or why you choose not to drink if you do.
14. What kind of music you enjoy listening to.
15. What kind of an education you have or don’t have, or if you intend to go back and finish what you’ve started. If continuing your studies is something you want to do, good, but don’t be forced into saying that you want it just because it’s what people expect of you.
16. What you happen to be turned on by. If you like slash fiction, you like slash fiction. If you like people recording videos of themselves popping balloons, that’s awesome for you. It’s all good, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone, have at it.
17. Whether or not you know to cook, even if you’re a woman who “should” know how to do those things.
18. If you stay at home to raise your children, or if you hire someone to help you do so because you have a full-time career. Neither of those choices are more or less feminist, no matter what Elizabeth Wurtzel tells you.
19. How many people you have had sex with.
20. Whether or not you are a virgin, and whether or not you want to wait for marriage to lose said virginity.
21. Whether or not you believe in God, and what you think God actually is. (As long as you’re not imposing any of your beliefs on others, in which case we’d have a bit of a problem. But I trust that you’re cool and wouldn’t do that.)
22. Who you voted for and why. If you want to talk about it, you’re free to. But no one should ever make you feel like you have to tell them.
23. If you have sex on a first date, if you kiss on a first date, or if you won’t even hold hands on a first date. You’re allowed to do whatever you like when you’ve just met a new potential suitor.
24. Whether or not you choose to use dating websites.
25. Not knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up, even if many people would already put you in the category of “grown up.” If you are considering going back to school, or changing careers, or moving, or starting a family, or doing charity work — it’s all good. And none of it has to be followed up with a longwinded explanation about why it’s a good idea and they should believe in you. If you need to justify what makes you happy to someone in your life, perhaps you should ask yourself why you even care about their opinion in the first place.
"YOU’RE ALL SO ANGRY AND YOU’RE NEVER HAPPY."
Yes, yes, preach it. Seriously.
Also, Erica and Boyd were only killed because Gage and Sinqua chose to leave the show. Jeff had story-lines set up for Erica and Boyd.
^ truth! so next time y’all get angry for dumb reasons, DO YOUR RESEARCH!
Research shows that Jeff didn’t tell Jill Wagner about her character dying the DAY it was being filmed. He made a statement along the lines of “You’re a bad guy, don’t assume you’re going to stay" at a panel for the fans to hear. But there’s Peter, Gerard, Deucalion, The Twins….they’re all bad guys and/or have done questionable things…..they’re still around.
Research shows that Melissa Ponzio was afraid of being killed off (without being told, mind you) that she searched for other jobs that could host her (The Walking Dead, a small cameo appearance in The Following) and that’s why she appears in these shows.
Research shows that Haley Webb has made repeated statements of how she would like to return to the show. None of them have been addressed.
Research shows that while Keahu Mahealani has been in the show SINCE SEASON 1, he’s never included in fan panels. Yet the Twins are suddenly boosted to the same level as the Tylers, Dylan, Crystal, Holland, and even Daniel when it comes to promotion……..and before you say that “Maybe it didn’t fit in his schedule”, well, how about you RESEARCH the panel where Keahu had to literally crash as an attendant and ask “Where’s Danny?” as the first question. Hahahaha what a light-hearted joke, right?!
Research shows that while Gage and Sinqua left, saying scheduling issues had to do with the reason for their departure, Jeff decided to off of their characters. Yet, when Colton Haynes decides to leave WITHOUT TELLING JEFF and the cast and crew to work in a different show, Jeff decides to “leave the door open” in case Jackson might want to return…..why not leave the door open for Erica and Boyd?
A person doesn’t need to state that they hate other races or women in order to be categorized as a racist or sexist. It is their actions that categorize them as such, and much of those actions are internalized due to years and years of our society making us believe what is right or wrong. If you don’t believe this is true, I recommend you RESEARCH Big Brother 15 and the controversy they’ve been dealing with about the casual racist, anti-semitism, homophobic, and sexist comments made throughout the season, and how it is all a reflection of American society.
We’re not getting angry for DUMB REASONS. We’re getting angry for legitimate and troubling patterns created by the show runner and the fandom. And believe me we do our research, we do more research than you can possibly imagine, because we have to be constantly explaining to this faction of the fandom things that they’re obviously trying to shut us down as being “angry” and “dumb.”
We have to constantly be asserting our position in this fandom through research of examples and patterns. And why do it? Why not just stop and enjoy a “cute” show about teenagers and werewolves? Well, sweet honey child the answer is simple! Because we refuse to shut down our brains, and we refuse to be persuaded by what the media is feeding us. Because as much as you would like to think “it’s just a show”, it isn’t. It is representation that is being ripped from the little show we thought would rise above all others.
It isn’t anger. It’s disappointment.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
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